My World and Welcome to It!

These are my thoughts and opinions about life in general. I also get daily prompts from DSP which inspire me to write. If I throw in some scrapbook pages I've done, photos I've taken, and stories about me, you will have an idea about my loony life!

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Hugging

Blog Prompt: Today is National Hugging Day. How do you feel about hugging?

I grew up in a family that didn’t do much hugging. I knew my family loved me and I was very spoiled, but Chinese people aren’t very demonstrative. It was really strange for me when I met my future husband’s mother who hugged everyone who walked in her door. In fact, it used to scare me and I refused to be the first one to walk in the door whenever we went to his parent’s house. Finally I got used to it and I didn’t avoid the hug any more but it became a problem with our children. My husband is a big hugger because he comes from a hugging family so my daughters thought I didn’t love them because I didn’t hug them as much. I felt so bad when I heard that so I made it a point to hug them every morning and every night and lots in the middle of the day if I thought about it. We also talked about the way I was brought up and why it was hard for me so I asked them to take the initiative and hug me as a way of teaching me to hug. Eventually I could hug my family without even thinking about it. My hubby starts every day with a big hug for me and now I can’t imagine starting the day without it. I belong to a hiking club that every time we meet, everyone hugs each other. Again, at first I was uncomfortable with this but I’m used to it now. So if I see you and don’t hug you, don’t think it’s because I don’t like you!

Original image: 'sometimes, a hug is all what we need' http://www.flickr.com/photos/86251769@N00/394781835by: カランドラカス

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I knew you loved me. I understand a lot more now than I did as a child. I also keep learning more about about chinese culture. I am glad I was brought up ina split culture family. It makes me who I am today. I love you.

Tink said...

Oh we are so alike. I'm not a hugger (though I will do so if the occasion calls for it). Neither of my parents were huggers either. Guess you could say it runs in the family :)